It should come as no surprise to you that breakups aren't much fun. In fact, it's pretty common knowledge that they're a pain. A lot less known is that you can put an end to all the breakup pain if you follow the steps I have laid out for you to get your ex back.
There may really be a lot involved in getting back your ex, but I've come up with a way to break it down into a few "chunks" that make it a bit easier to swallow. Some chunks are kinda big, but if you really stick to it, you can get your life back on track easier than you think.
Step 1: Don't go rushing to try to get your ex to take you back. This is exactly the wrong thing to do, considering your ex most likely doesn't exactly want to talk to you right now. Give him/her some space and time to gather his/her wits. Breakups are just as stressful for your ex as they are for you.
Step 2: While the two of you are "on-break" and not talking, take advantage of the time you have to yourself to really work on yourself. Figure out any flaws you had or mistakes you made that really contributed to the breakup. Whether the list is long or short, there WILL be one...if there wasn't, there wouldn't be a breakup. Once you've identified the problems, get to work fixing them! It's a difficult process, but it's extremely important that you never make the same mistakes again.
Step 3: Once you've had sufficient time to recover from the breakup and really get yourself back into order, you can go ahead and contact your ex. Do so lightly at first, and keep away from aggressive relationship talk. Just give him/her a phone call or email asking how they've been doing. It's light, it makes contact, and it serves as a good starting point for slightly escalating contacts.
Step 4: If the first contacts work out, you'll probably slowly start spending more time with each other. During these occasions, don't be aggressive...just do things with your ex that you both used to really enjoy. This is great for rekindling old memories and feelings. Second, use this time to let the work you've been doing on yourself speak for itself.
Step 5: If all the things you've done have worked out, and you manage to impress your ex and achieve a second chance at making the relationship work, now comes a very essential part of it all. If you get your ex back, you have to KEEP him/her. You have to stick to the changes you've made in yourself. If you just let it all hang out again, you'll lose him/her again...and this time you may not be able to get your ex back.
You'll have a lot of sacrifice and compromise in any relationship, it's just what's necessary for two people to share something so close. It's important to keep from messing up and doing the same mistakes you already made that cost you your first relationship, because next time there may not be any chance to make things right.
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